DO NOT DECIDE TO BE ALONE


01 Oct
01Oct

Story: Mario was not trusting anybody. Why? Because if the people really cared about him, they would approach him since he was feeling very bad and they knew it. But they did not care at all. Mario started to work on his own, they did not care, why should he? He started hiding some actions that the others would not understand, some lies to get rid of questions... and that was it, Mario started some habits that would regret until today. - If you feel lonely is because either you want it or because you want it. Nobody is alone in this world. If you need help, ask for it. If you do not want to ask for it, you do not really need help. That easy. -

All of us have problems. All of us need help from others. That is society, that is family, that is friendship, that is love. It might sound easy but when we are in bad situations we try to avoid telling others about it. Why? There can be two different reasons:

  • We do not want to look weak.
  • We do not want to worry our beloved ones.

It does not matter which reason you have, you are doing it wrong. Everybody is different, each problem affects people in different ways. When we talk about problems there is nothing like strong/weak.

We realize about that when we try to imagine other people in our situation. Then is when we commit the following mistake: 'We give things for granted and we create from a hypothetical situation our truth'.

What do I mean with that? How many times have you imagined that if you tell your best friend about your problem he/she would laugh? Or that person would feel disappointed because you have that problem and you can't even deal with it? These are the most toxic thoughts when you need help.

Needing help is not a sign of weakness but of strength. Read that again because as weird it sounds is the fucking truth. When you decide to ask for help you are willing to team up to defeat your problem. You are saying: STOP! Let's win this.

Friendship, love, family, you name it. Each of them are based on one word. Trust. Trust means a lot of things but in this case, it means that you chose that people because you count on them, and of course, they count on you. Not only on solving problems but also on telling them. 

Do not forget that people are living their lives. They do not know everything that happens in yours, so you should not give things for granted. They should not know whether you need help or not. You should ask for it.

Ask for help. 

Are you afraid of their reaction? That reaction can end in one of the two following situations:

  • You learn how important you are for somebody.
  • You learn how important you are for somebody.

Yeah, there are the same. If you share you pain, you will feel released. You will get an extra hands to deal with it. Both will learn more about each other, and you both will grow like a person. You guys will definetly beat it. 

What about if they do not help? I do not really need to waste my time explaining it as you do not really need to waste your friendship with them.

The following words are leading my life: 'Nobody is perfect, but a team can be'.

Every relationship in your life is a potential team that you can build. Any team is more powerful that the individual. So if you want to beat your problems, share them, team up and do it. 

Story: Mario was not trusting anybody. Why? Because if the people really cared about him, they would approach him since he was feeling very bad and they knew it. But they did not care at all. Well, that was wrong and Mario knew it. So he decided to share the problems with the people he loved. They helped him and know they know they can trust each other. - If you feel lonely is because either you want it or because you want it. Nobody is alone in this world. If you need help, ask for it. If you do not want to ask for it, you do not really need help. That easy. -

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